So many folks around me are going through some identify-shifting changes. It’s not just women in midlife, although when a woman’s physiology shifts so profoundly, it impacts everything and everyone around her. One of my favorite authors, Marianne Williamson, approaches the subject of spiritual growth in midlife so adroitly. In The Age of Miracles: Embracing the New Midlife, she advises women my age:
Now it’s my turn, to try to put together some piece of life’s puzzle for those who look to me as one who’s done it herself. How we behave, how we do or do not seek to bring harmony to the world around us are holographic teachings we’re beaming to those around us all the time.
To paraphrase a another quote that keeps popping back into my head:
No one is as dangerous as a woman in midlife. For she will say “The emporer has no clothes!”
I found a link to a book on the subject of redefining what it means to a Crone. I have not read this one yet, but really enjoyed the wisdom and acerbic wit of Susan Schachterle in The Bitch, The Crone, and the Harlot: Reclaiming the Magical Feminine in Midlife. Then there’s always the classic paradigm exposing book by Clarissa Pinkola Estés Women Who Run with the Wolves.
In addition to reading, this weekend’s activities include:
- Meet & greet at the Farmers’ Market, and modeling the ways that I live more simply and sustainably.
- Making room in the cabin for a large bookshelf and my “keeper” books on organic gardening, environment, health, spirituality, and art.
- Weeding in the co-operative garden.
- Connecting with family and friends, old and new.
- Practicing yoga and meditation.
- Smudging my Self and my space with sage and sweet grass. A friend shows how to create your own smudge sticks.
- Surrendering. Creating. Changing.
Think: What changes are you in the midst of?
Say: The traditional Indian philosophy of understanding change is triangular. Brahma represents the creative force, Vishnu stabilizes things for a time, and Shiva tears things down again. Write down what you wish to create, what you are grateful for at this moment, and what you wish to let go of. Realize that you’re always in the process of each these aspects in some way.
Do: Find a way to depict your three aspects, whether through art, symbols, photos, or a way that makes sense to you. Honor the sacred process of change.
Thanks to Collin Chambers for taking the photograph at top of post.